CHAPTER 17
MUST AVOID AND CAN’T GET RID OF

This is the flip side of the MUST HAVE / CAN’T HAVE difficulty discussed in the previous chapter. These are the things that many people feel they MUST AVOID but can’t seem to get rid of.

When we were handling something that a person Must Have, we had to begin by wasting it to reverse the stuck flow on trying to get it. Once that is knocked out, then we run general processes of accepting and rejecting it to stabilize the person so that he doesn’t start the whole mess over again.

For something that the person is trying to get rid of which wouldn’t go away (and almost seems like he is pulling in on himself), the first process has to be the exact opposite. Since he is compulsively avoiding, he must mockup ways to have more of whatever it is until the stuck point dissolves. Then we do the rest of it exactly the same as we did for a Must Have because the remaining steps get the person to a point where he can accept or reject at will without compulsion.

Refer back to section 15.1 in the previous chapter for general information on doing these processes.

Again we will work over some common things that people are often avoiding.

17.1 Drudgery

Here we are looking at the flip side of desirable work. This is the stuff that the person doesn’t want to do and is not interested in doing but is made to do by whatever circumstances.

And the more he tries to avoid it, the more it seems to seek him out.

17.1.1 Mockup a way to have more drudgery.

17.1.2

a) visualize imposing drudgery on another

b) visualize another imposing drudgery on you

c) visualize another imposing drudgery on others

17.1.3

a) What could drudgery be a substitution for

b) What could substitute for drudgery

17.1.4

a) What drudgery could you accept

b) What drudgery could you reject

17.1.5

Now mockup clouds of things involving drudgery around you.

Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5 above.

17.1.6

Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6 above.

Spot activities involving drudgery. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.

Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any flinch at connecting to them.

17.2 Pain

Most people do not like pain. In trying to avoid it they often encounter more. So let’s handle this.

17.2.1 Mockup a way to have more pain.

17.2.2

a) visualize giving pain to another

b) visualize another giving pain to you

c) visualize another giving pain to others

17.2.3

a) What could pain be a substitution for

b) What could substitute for pain

17.2.4

a) What pain could you accept

b) What pain could you reject

17.2.5

Now mockup clouds of things involving pain around you.

Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5.

17.2.6

Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6.

Spot people and things involving pain. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.

Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any flinch at connecting to them.

17.3 Criticism

Another thing that we often try to avoid and can’t seem to get away from is criticism.

17.3.1 Mockup a way to receive more criticism.

17.3.2

a) visualize criticizing another

b) visualize another criticizing you

c) visualize another criticizing others

17.3.3

a) What could criticism be a substitution for

b) What could substitute for criticism

17.3.4

a) What criticism could you accept

b) What criticism could you reject

17.3.5

Now mockup crowds of critical people around you.

Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5.

17.3.6

Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6.

Spot activities involving criticism. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.

Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any flinch at connecting to them.

17.4 Aggravation

Another thing that we often try to avoid and can’t seem to get away from is aggravation.

17.4.1 Mockup a way to receive more aggravation.

17.4.2

a) visualize aggravating another

b) visualize another aggravating you

c) visualize another aggravating others

17.4.3

a) What could aggravation be a substitution for

b) What could substitute for aggravation

17.4.4

a) What aggravation could you accept

b) What aggravation could you reject

17.4.5

Now mockup crowds of critical people around you.

Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5.

17.4.6

Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6.

Spot activities involving aggravation. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.

Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any flinch at connecting to them.

17.5 Other Areas

This can be used for other things that you are trying to avoid. These could be things such as bills or punishments or whatever.

Fill in the blanks with the appropriate item.

17.5.1 Mockup a way to have (receive) more _____.

17.5.2

a) visualize giving _____ to another

b) visualize another giving _____ to you

c) visualize another giving _____ to others

17.5.3

a) What could _____ be a substitution for

b) What could substitute for _____

17.5.4

a) What _____ could you accept

b) What _____ could you reject

17.5.5

Now mockup clouds of _____ or objects that represent _____ around you.

Push them into the body and throw them away as in 16.1.5.

17.5.6

Now close your eyes and imagine that you are looking down at a large city as in 16.1.6.

Spot collections of _____, or activities involving _____. For each one, reach down and connect to it, and then disconnect from it.

Continue this until you can reach and let go of these easily without any flinch at connecting to them.